Kind of a “mood car.” And since I’m color blind, that seems rather apropos!

I’m not one to brag about getting a car – I’ll brag about a whole LOT of other stuff (lol!) but I don’t want to seem ostentatious or showy. Truth be told, we always buy pre-owned cars. My hubby John really could and should have a career/side hustle as a “personal shopper” for people needing cars, appliances, mortgages. Basically anything most of us HATE shopping for, he LOVES … and is exceptionally good at doing so.

Anyway, for multiple reasons, John has had a hard time driving certain makes and models of cars during- and post-pandemic. There are some vibrational frequencies that really mess with his equilibrium, but I’ve been the beneficiary of his automotive experiments the past few years, which has been rather fun. Like trying on shoes. But bigger. With wheels. And made of metal.

That said, about a week ago, we passed a Lincoln Corsair on the street, and I said, “Wow! That’s pretty!” I’m not one to really express strong opinions about cars, so, when John heard that, his head was on a swivel. “Really? Tell me more? What do you like about it?”

Flash forward, and here we are. Me the proud owner of a (gently) used Corsair, chosen by/for me by my loving hubby. I’m quite thrilled with it for multiple reasons that you can likely intuit here, but mostly because of John’s joy and care in finding it for me.

I never thought I’d own a white car – my mother’s colorful commentary about white cars rings in my ears – but it’s technically something called “ceramic pearl,” which all I can figure means it looks white or gray or green or speckled-y or any number of other hues when the light strikes it just so. Kind of a “mood car.” And since I’m color blind, that seems rather apropos!

“Did you get the envelope?”

Some people write really profound things on LinkedIn. And I admire that. I think I occasionally have a profound thought, but I’m not sure I ever share it. Maybe I’ll work on that. Maybe I won’t.

But here is the stray thought I had today. My mom showed me she loved me in so many ways, but one strikes me today that I miss.

About once a week from my college years until she became obsessed with her computer in the mid-aughts, my mom would send me an envelope stuffed with newspaper clippings and cartoons, Scotch-taped within an inch of its life. I would open it, flip through the jaggedly torn items, smile, maybe scratch my head over a few pieces that had uniquely scribbled notations, and then call her. I always would call her. If I didn’t, she would call ME obsessively and ask, “Did you get the envelope?”

Kind of drove me crazy at the time. But I miss it now. But the observation I make from this is that I use social media much the way she used those newspaper clippings. Sharing a random grab bag of memes and articles and photos to stay connected with people I care about and to show them I love them.

So if you find yourself unlucky/fortunate enough (you pick!) to be connected with me on social media, know this is my love language. And it comes from a long line of colorful Southern women who clipped cartoons and zany items from the newspaper. Ah, newsprint. I miss that too.

My mom did this, my grandmother did this, my aunts did this. And I suspect many many others in our family tree did as well.

You’re welcome. And if your love language is writing thoughtful essays on LinkedIn, well, I see you, I appreciate you, and game meets game. And if you haven’t discovered your love language yet, give it a go. It will make this world a better place.

Sending love! Literally.

What do I know that matters?

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Public statements. I know for many of us that is our stock in trade as marketers. But with what feels like a never-ending stream of global, regional, local tragedies, the cascade of public statements starts to feel like a performative cycle.

If you are silent, if you respond too soon, if you respond too late, if you don’t thread the needle of compassion with enough specificity or too much vagueness, or if it seems too innocuous…you upset someone.

I’m told words matter. I believe actions when no one is looking matter more. And with so much heartache in the world, corporate statements from on high become some kind of ephemeral game, arguably helping no one in real life.

When you are in a leadership role, you feel this pressure even more acutely. And for those of us who are deeply empathetic and sensitive, it can become paralyzing.

What do I feel in this present moment? Absolute heartache. The images of innocent people trying to live their daily lives being ripped apart, physically and emotionally are horrifying beyond belief. I am bereft to be honest.

I could make a statement affirming that I abhor violence and terrorism. That would be absolutely true. But in this moment where personally my heart is at sea, I ask myself what good would my words do? Add some momentary comfort? Possibly.

What do I also know about public statements? Most of them go unread. After so much heartache and handwringing goes into creating them. And those that are read, never resonate in the way they are intended.

What do I know that matters? That you reach out to individuals in your life, people you know who are hurting, who are scared, who want to know they aren’t alone. My mother said tell people what they mean to you in the moment when it will mean something to them. Those words couldn’t ring truer for me right now. That’s what we all need to do.

The pressures you are all already under in your daily lives to do the good work you do, to take care of yourselves and your families, and to take care of each other, is daunting enough. But to then witness an hourly barrage of images that have us question our own humanity is too much to bear.

So, what can you do? Reach out to a friend, tell them you love them, share your feelings with them, donate to humanitarian organizations that are doing the impossible work of knitting lives back together… and most of all be kind.

Some of you will be happy with this note, some of you will be upset, some may seek commiseration online, some of you won’t read this at all. That is the nature of public statements. Public actions? Those matter.

Love you,

Roy

Roy Sexton

President

2023 LMA International Board of Directors

Director of Marketing
Clark Hill PLC

Thank you, EJ … we do this work together 💕

From Kat Kelly-Heinzelman via Susie Duncan Sexton: Families That We Make

Re-blogged from my mom Susie Duncan Sexton‘s blog, which can be found here. My mom writes …

To my friend/family Kat Kelly-Heinzelman:

Tears welling in my eyes, a smile on my face at the same time? What a poignant and revelatory essay, Kat!

Read “Families That We Make” here: https://lighthousekat.wordpress.com/2015/05/06/families-that-we-make/

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Your paragraphs about Roy and me moved me beyond words at a time I sorely needed a kind nod my way…I love people appreciating Roy even more than I vainly loved what you wrote about me!

Kat, I wonder if you realize what a good turn you just did for me and all those whom you mentioned and those whom you included without specific names. I totally believe in inclusion…and you are a champion at that skill! Your grace and kindness and humor receive an A + from this old former English teacher who no longer capitalizes and punctuates because I am all worn out.

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You are a tonic…a gin and tonic! We love you and feel that we have always been family…the three of us forever! Your losses have been mighty, and you have prevailed with a sunny spirit and a warm heart and a delightful candor.

Thanks for perking all of us up with your appreciation for and a description of the humans in your life. Humans can be as wonderful as every other species! (You knew that I would mention animals, right? they are my best friends as are you!)

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Reel Roy Reviews 2

Reel Roy Reviews 2

Reel Roy Reviews is now TWO books! You can purchase your copies by clicking here (print and digital) In addition to online ordering at Amazon or from the publisher Open Books, the first book is currently is being carried by Bookbound, Common Language Bookstore, and Crazy Wisdom Bookstore and Tea Room in Ann Arbor, Michigan and by Green Brain Comics in Dearborn, Michigan. My mom Susie Duncan Sexton’s Secrets of an Old Typewriter series is also available on Amazon and at Bookbound and Common Language.