Happy birthday, John! From me … and Freddie Prinze, Jr.

Happy birthday to my dear hubby John! Both Freddie Prinze, Jr., and I bring you glad tidings because … why not? 😅

Hudson and Henry J and I – and our friends and family – are truly fortunate to have such a loving, caring, generous soul as John looking out for us all. 💕

“Did you get the envelope?”

Some people write really profound things on LinkedIn. And I admire that. I think I occasionally have a profound thought, but I’m not sure I ever share it. Maybe I’ll work on that. Maybe I won’t.

But here is the stray thought I had today. My mom showed me she loved me in so many ways, but one strikes me today that I miss.

About once a week from my college years until she became obsessed with her computer in the mid-aughts, my mom would send me an envelope stuffed with newspaper clippings and cartoons, Scotch-taped within an inch of its life. I would open it, flip through the jaggedly torn items, smile, maybe scratch my head over a few pieces that had uniquely scribbled notations, and then call her. I always would call her. If I didn’t, she would call ME obsessively and ask, “Did you get the envelope?”

Kind of drove me crazy at the time. But I miss it now. But the observation I make from this is that I use social media much the way she used those newspaper clippings. Sharing a random grab bag of memes and articles and photos to stay connected with people I care about and to show them I love them.

So if you find yourself unlucky/fortunate enough (you pick!) to be connected with me on social media, know this is my love language. And it comes from a long line of colorful Southern women who clipped cartoons and zany items from the newspaper. Ah, newsprint. I miss that too.

My mom did this, my grandmother did this, my aunts did this. And I suspect many many others in our family tree did as well.

You’re welcome. And if your love language is writing thoughtful essays on LinkedIn, well, I see you, I appreciate you, and game meets game. And if you haven’t discovered your love language yet, give it a go. It will make this world a better place.

Sending love! Literally.

Home again, home again … a weeklong road trip to St. Augustine – with lots of great vegetarian fare and lovely people – comes to a close

It has been a minute since we’ve last had a proper vacation. Since February 2020 to be exact. Zoinks. Covid brought us mucho challenges. As did life, volunteer commitments, family obligations, on and on.

Highly encourage all professionals to unplug, REALLY unplug. Your work, mental health, overall happiness will benefit. Easy to say, so difficult to do in this day and age of constant connectivity.

Link to photo album: https://www.facebook.com/share/kUGx8Kkc7wG1kdWR/

So we planned a little road trip. Kinda stealthy. Apologies to friends along our route for not stopping but we needed to get our travel sea legs back TBH. And needed some much needed unplugging time too. We had a relaxing and reviving journey with lots of delightful vegetarian finds (and many, many truly lovely people) along the way (locations tagged in photos).

But being home again always seems like the best reward of all. We missed our little four legged wackadoos very much. 💕

Whew 😅

Detroit Legal News covers launch of Expert Webcast series “All the World’s YOUR Stage”

Thank you, Brian Cox and Brad Thompson! You and the Legal News have been so kind to me for nearly 15 (!) years now!

Original article: https://www.legalnews.com/Home/Articles?DataId=1540542

Expert Webcast has launched a new series hosted by Clark Hill director of marketing and immediate past international president of the Legal Marketing Association Roy Sexton.

Titled “All the World’s YOUR Stage: Authentic Culture Drives Authentic Growth,” the show will feature discussions with notable business leaders on why culture matters, how one’s personal and professional brand are inextricably linked, and how to leverage your innate authenticity to create growth and spur sustainable organizational change.

The first season’s guests will include:

  • 96.3 WDVD’s morning show co-host of Blaine and Lauren Blaine D. Fowler
  • The Wall Street Journal best-selling author of Wonderhell and Limitless as well as keynote speaker and coach Laura Gassner Otting
  • Author/coach/recovering attorney/ president of Harrington Communications Jay Harrington
  • Fender Musical Instruments Corporation General Counsel/Executive Vice President/Corporate Secretary Aarash Darroodi
  • Counselor and spiritual coach Julie Booksh, MA, LPC
  • FOX 2 Detroit prime time anchor Roop Raj (TBD)
  • Eastern Michigan University General Counsel and Executive Director of The Penny Seats theatre company Lauren M. London
  • Keynote speaker/corporate comedian/client care strategist Brenda Pontiff of Partner Track Academy
  • Professor of Psychology, Cognition and Cognitive Neuroscience Area, University of Michigan and author Stephanie Preston
  • President and CEO of Detroit Regional Partnership Maureen Donohue Krauss, FM
  • Storyteller + Strategist: on stage and behind the scenes, award-winning voice­over artist Ratana
  • Communications Manager at Walt Disney Imagineering Dana C. Harvey, MBA

“I’m thrilled to be able to share my friends and their inspiring stories with the world. These professionals all have incredible and varied careers, rich with life lessons that can help others succeed and thrive in their respective work,” Sexton observed. “I come from a long line of storytellers, and I think the best way to learn and to be inspired is by sharing our journeys with each other.”

Expert Webcast is a woman-owned company and is a leading source of transactional wisdom and market intelligence for the professional and the business communities locally, nationally and cross-border. Producing the industry’s leading panel discussions and interviews covering corporate, M&A, restructuring and finance topics, Expert Webcast addresses timely and relevant issues faced by general counsel, C-level executives, boards of directors, business owners and their advisors, as well as institutional investors.

“We partner with leading media outlets and organizations to expand the reach and impact of the platform, and to foster collaboration and knowledge sharing among industry peers and stakeholders,” Anna Spektor, Expert Webcast’s Founder and CEO, noted. “Roy is a welcome addition to our voices. We’ve already recorded our first episode [with Blaine Fowler], and I’m just thrilled with the direction. I think our viewers – attorney leaders, executives, professional services practitioners – will gain great insight from these accessible, fun, authentic conversations.”

Roy Sexton leads Clark Hill’s marketing, branding, and communications efforts in collaboration with the firm’s team of marketing and business development professionals. He has nearly 20 years of experience in marketing, communications, business development, and strategic planning.

“As an acknowledged business leader and a top legal marketing, communications and strategic planning executive, Roy will add a new dimension to the Expert Webcast legal, finance and transactional programming by interviewing entrepreneurs, media personalities and other business leaders, focusing on business culture, growth and collaboration,” Spektor added.

Sexton is passionate about problem solving, facilitating business growth, crafting communications strategy, and enhancing law firm culture. He works closely with the marketing team to advance the firm’s digital and social media presence and external engagement, using multi-channel distribution and data collection. This enables the team to quantify results and use those results to produce thoughtfully and strategically organized content for clients and prospects.

Sexton also advises attorneys on marketing and business development strategy by curating relationships among external publications and media outlets and creating the appropriate platforms and opportunities for attorneys to promote their knowledge and practice.

He has been heavily involved regionally and nationally in the Legal Marketing Association – LMA International (LMA) as a board member, content expert, and presenter. He currently serves as Past President of LMA. He also serves on the governance board committee of Mosaic Youth Theatre of Detroit and was marketing chair for Ronald McDonald House Charities Ann Arbor’s board.

Sexton was named one of INvolve People’s 2023 Top 100 OUTstanding LGBTQ+ Executives internationally. He was listed in Crain’s Detroit Business’ “Notable LGBTQ in Business” in 2021 and “Notable Leaders in Marketing” in 2023, and he was a Michigan Lawyers Weekly “Unsung Legal Hero” (2018).

In 2022, Clark Hill’s marketing campaign, which Sexton played a key role in developing, received the Best Marketing Campaign award from the Managing Partners’ Forum in London, celebrating professional services organizations. The campaign was noted for its focus on values, diversity, and inclusion. The Clark Hill marketing and business development team was also awarded “Best Marketing Initiative” by Managing Partners’ Forum in 2020.

Sexton is a published author of two books: ReelRoyReviews, Volumes 1 and 2 and he was named “Best Actor in a Musical” by BroadwayWorld in 2017 for his performance as Jasper in The Mystery of Edwin Drood at Ann Arbor Civic Theatre.

“No natural predators … well, almost none.” Saltburn

Saltburn. I’m usually quite certain how I feel about a film immediately after viewing, if not during. This one? Not so much.

I adored director Emerald Fennell’s prior flick Promising Young Woman, which had a similar candy-coated corrosiveness about it but also a supremely clear POV on the ills of toxic masculinity. Promising Young Woman was like the cinematic progeny of Legally Blonde, Dirty Harry, Heathers, Clueless, and Death Wish. And I was there for all of it. (Star Carey Mulligan can do no wrong in my book.)

Saltburn (on Amazon Prime) takes a comparable scorched earth satirical approach – so pitch black it barely ekes out as satire and leans more low-key horror/thriller. Its eat-the-rich (sometimes quite literally) raison d’etre is appealing in these inflationary days. And I suppose every generation needs its own version of Single White Female, and it was only a matter of time before someone mashed that time-worn concept up with Brideshead Revisited by way of The Talented Mr. Ripley and Where the Wild Things Are. The neo-Shakespearean sexual fluidity of louche landed gentry lounging about their summer country estate is ever a vibe.

Into this world wanders squinchy-faced Oliver, played by a transfixing Barry Keoghan, a compelling mix of wayward son and Machiavellian schemer. You see, he seems to have a puppyish crush on his golden god of a college classmate Felix Catton (a lovingly languid Jacob Elordi). Felix takes pity on Oliver who by all appearances has very little in the way of resources (financial, emotional), and Felix invites “Ollie” home for the summer to stay at the palatial family estate “Saltburn.”

Once there, we are introduced to the rest of the Catton clan, like a syphillitic fever dream if Agatha Christie had penned a truly grotesque episode of AbFab. And then it all gets rather Ten Little Indians meets Flowers in the Attic.

Rosamund Pike as matriarch Elspeth nearly runs away with the movie at this point, and honestly is the only actor (save Richard E. Grant as her feckless hubby) who really seems to *get* the assignment here. This is Noel Coward/Oscar Wilde/Anton Chekhov for the TikTok generation. Every caustic aside must drip with honey, and every action must come from a place of such spoiled boredom that one wonders if the character even has a pulse. Pike nails it and gives the film an arch momentum.

I won’t spoil any twists or surprises, but, unlike Promising Young Woman, Saltburn rather telegraphs its punches. And the gross-out moments all seem contrived to create more internet buzz than propel the sordid tale. That said, I can’t imagine that anyone who has ever seen any of the previously aforementioned movies or, hell, read a Sherlock Holmes … or Hardy Boys story would be shocked by the film’s “big reveal.” As Oliver tells Elspeth, “And you have no natural predators … [dramatic winking pause] well, almost none.”

But if you want to see Keoghan dance about in his altogether ad nauseum to Sophie Ellis-Bextor’s early oughts disco classic “Murder on the Dance Floor,” then this is the movie for you. Goodnight and good luck!

A Tale of Two Closets: Maestro and Fellow Travelers

Gay film and television dramas always include suffering. A lot of suffering. We in the LGBTQIA+ community don’t get a lot of Julia Roberts/Hugh Grant frothy rom coms. Hell, we don’t get any Marvel epics, Disney fables, sci-fi adventures, or even glitzy musicals of our own. C’est la vie.

But sometimes in the suffering, Hollywood gets it right. That is indubitably the case with Showtime’s/Hulu’s/Paramount+’s literary adaptation Fellow Travelers, starring Matt Bomer, Jonathan Bailey, Allison Williams, Jelani Alladin, and Noah Ricketts. It is almost the case with actor/star/auteur Bradley Cooper’s latest opus, the Leonard Bernstein biopic Maestro on Netflix, co-starring Carey Mulligan, Sarah Silverman, Maya Hawke, annnnnnnd … Matt Bomer!

It may be an unfair comparison, as Fellow Travelers benefits a) from being a work of historical fiction and b) from being told over eight episodes. The adaptation of Thomas Mallon’s novel has a lot more latitude and space to explore the nuances and travails of gay men living, loving, and, quite frankly, simply surviving – from the McCarthy communist witch hunts and Lavender Scare until the AIDS crisis in the mid-80s. I might also suggest, however, that Fellow Travelers benefits from its showrunners being openly gay themselves – among them writer/executive producer Ron Nyswaner and director/executive producer Daniel Minahan.

Now, I’m not one who subscribes to the notion that only people in one particular group can tell the stories of said group. Art is about exploring and learning and growing – and you can only do that by molding clay that may be a bit foreign to your own lived experience. However, the viewer can feel the qualitative difference when said stories are told by those who have experienced them firsthand versus those who haven’t. What is that old saw? “Write what you know.” It’s a conundrum to be sure – some of the best art is crafted by those who have survived a fiery furnace, but others gain knowledge and empathy by exploring its simulacrum.

Fellow Travelers covers (in essence) a waterfront remarkably akin to that of Tony Kushner’s Pulitzer Prize-winning two-part play Angels in America, itself a groundbreaking moment for gay literature and art. Closeted McCarthy bulldog Roy Cohn (later a mentor to Donald Trump) is a haunted gargoyle of an antagonist in each. As Cohn in Fellow Travelers, Will Brill is exceptional – infuriating AND heartbreaking – a scheming ball of self-loathing barbed wire. Matt Bomer’s Fellow Travelers character Hawkins Fuller, a state department bureaucrat and war hero, could be a corollary to Angels’ similarly “straight-presenting,” dual-life-leading Mormon anti-hero Joe Pitt. Jonathan Bailey’s tortured idealist Tim Laughlin who ricochets from cause to cause (McCarthyism, seminary, San Fran-community organizer) in Fellow Travelers evokes faith-conflicted, virtue-signaling Louis Ironson in Angels. And both characters are a bit … exhausting TBH. Hawk’s long-suffering wife Lucy Smith, as portrayed by Allison Williams in Fellow Travelers, follows a similar arc to Joe Pitt’s equally long-suffering wife Harper in Angels (minus the polar bear excursions). And we even have an answer for Angels’ Belize, the play’s over-it-all Jiminy Cricket-conscience, in Fellow Travelers’ will-they-won’t-they couple Marcus Gaines, a closeted journalist, and Frankie Hines, a very un-closeted drag performer and activist, portrayed respectively (and luminously) by Jelani Alladin and Noah Ricketts.

While the cast structure and timeline bear striking similarity to Angels, the tone is very different. No flights of fantasia nor whipsaw quippery here, and, in some respects, the story is more impactful for playing it, excuse me, straight. Particularly, Bomer and Williams turn in career-best performances. Neither fall prey to convention here. Bomer is, yes, a bit Mad Men-Don Draper-esque here (to the good). He plays the Machiavellian Hawkins as a fully formed human, broken as can be, but functioning – and functioning highly. A director I once had – Rex McGraw at Ohio State – told me, “Remember, the villain in a play doesn’t think they are the villain.” They are either trying to do the right thing or simply getting by. Hawkins is not a victim nor a victimizer, but a creature of circumstance and access. He’s paved a career through military and state service, lives a personal life of countervailing performative balance, and dreams of it all leading one day to unlimited freedom (a day that never comes). In contrast, Williams could play simply the tragic collateral damage to all this – the naive spouse who trades away full-fledged love for security. Her character and her portrayal are too smart for that. She knows what she’s gotten into, sees the promise in Hawkins, but also shields her own heart as best she can.

What people outside the LGBTQIA+ community – particularly of a certain era – may fail to understand is that for many (myself included) we play a game with ourselves (much like Hawkins) that with the passage of time (and the passing of some family members) one day we can be our true selves. Some of us realize that is folly, and some don’t. And that is a central tension of Fellow Travelers, Angels in America, and, yes, Maestro.

Bradley Cooper has gotten some flak for using prosthetics to resemble (uncannily I might add) composer/conductor/wunderkind Leonard Bernstein in Maestro. Regarding my point that not everyone has to be it to play it? This applies here IMHO. The film is a remarkable feat – Cooper writes, directs, produces, stars – and I mean he STARS, baby. Remember that clip of Cooper as an overeager grad student asking Robert DeNiro a question from the audience of Inside the Actors’ Studio with James Lipton? That same overeager Cooper brings his golden retriever-like energy to Leonard Bernstein’s own golden retriever-like energy and at times it’s just so much muchness.

It’s all beautifully framed, reverent even. And that’s a bit of the problem. Again, Fellow Travelers has a lot more time in which to tell its tale, but Maestro almost comes off like a series of frustratingly fragmented sketches, a tone poem if you will, that can’t decide if it wants to lionize Bernstein or crush him under the weight of his own vanity. A good biographical film doesn’t have to do either – in fact it shouldn’t – but the fact that Maestro feels as synaptically syncopated as Bernstein’s score to West Side Story makes for a slightly maddening viewing experience. And please note, I generally liked the film, but I wish it had slowed down every once in a while, cut down on the Altman-esque overlapping clichéd dialogue, and let us really delve into this brilliant soul’s mind and heart. It feels like Cooper took literally Bernstein’s closeted bisexuality and the conflict it presented Bernstein – existing in the same era as Fellow Travelers with life and career at comparable risk. Consequently, Cooper is playing the same game of “keep-away” with the narrative that Bernstein played with his sexual identity.

Thank heavens for Carey Mulligan. I think I write that sentence yearly now. As Felicia Montealegre Bernstein, Mulligan keeps the film from spinning off its well-intentioned axis. The script doesn’t give her as much as it could – again, a LOT of naturalistic “dialogue” which weirdly on film comes off pretentious and unnatural, but it is what it is. Nonetheless, Mulligan gets more across with the arch of an eyebrow, the pursing of her lips, a clenched jaw, a smile that fades slowly into a grimace and then a frown, the flicking of a cigarette. (Speaking of which it becomes almost comical that every single moment of every single scene Lenny and Felicia have cigarettes in their hands – like everywhere. I know smoking was a different vice back then, but come on!) With her precisely-expressioned face alone, Mulligan gives the audience long, deep looks into the pain (and joy) of sharing her life – professional and personal – with the boundlessly creative and self-indulgent Lenny. And this is where having some LGBTQIA+ creatives involved in the production might have helped Cooper strike the right balance depicting the high wire act Leonard Bernstein was navigating. Mulligan has the sensitivity and insight and empathy to show us the impact, but Cooper – wearing ALL those hats and with a healthy dollop of hero worship – doesn’t quite stick the landing, the way Bomer does in Fellow Travelers.

And, yes, both Maestro and Fellow Travelers include fourth act scenes in discotheques. It seems to be de rigeur for queer-themed productions. Whereas Fellow Travelers uses the setting as a place to explore the impact of emotional (and physical) self-medication, Maestro uses it to cringe effect (as the kids say). Seeing a sweaty Leonard Bernstein swaying his arms to Tears for Fears’ “Shout” (seriously, was that song ever played in a gay dance bar) as some final, triumphant act of liberation? Yeah, not so much.

(By the way, Cooper also has Bernstein listening to R.E.M.’s “End of the World as We Know It,” exiting his cute red convertible just as Michael Stipe shouts the lyric “LEEEEOONNN-ARRRRD BERN-STEEEEEIN!” I really had no idea what to make of that. Seemed a bit Mel Brooks-y to me.)

Both productions are well worth your time. I feel like I’ve been a bit uncharitable toward Mr. Cooper and Maestro. He should be proud of his achievement, and if I were his eighth grade English teacher I would give him a gold star and an A+ on his thesis project. But, for my money, the better bet is with Fellow Travelers. It says much about the human condition – queer or otherwise – and is beyond revelatory regarding our present socio-politically fragmented days. It’s the end of the world as we know it … and I feel fine.

Birthday love – from my hubby, Athena, Laura, more

My darling hubby John Mola and the divine Athena Dion conspired to create this lovely birthday message. This put such a smile in my heart. Love you so!

Yes, there were McGriddles and sweet tea and Holiday Pies … and Henry J!
Note to self: comb my hair!
My hubby spoiling me rotten! He bought allllll the things I love 🎁

Thank you, friends and family, for the lovely wishes, comments, texts, and outreach. Feeling truly fortunate 🎁✨

Thank you, GREAT Aunt Pauline Rinker (yes, you are!) for this delightful Star Wars birthday musical surprise today. Love you!

Nostalgia

Nostalgia. You reach this point in life and it comes over you in unexpected waves. A week or so ago I was reminiscing with my husband about the first new car I remember my parents buying. Up until that point, they had a series of hand me downs.

But in 1984 I was so proud of myself that I called their attention to what was inexplicably Motortrend’s car of the year: the Renault Alliance.

It was affordable, rather exotic/chic/cute (for its moment), and my mother thought it looked like a MilkyWay candy bar. We had it in burgundy, and I can still remember the clean, warm, plastic-y smell it had inside.

It was the car on which I learned to drive, with which I got my driver’s license, and that I was very rarely occasionally allowed to drive around in high school when I wanted to seem … cool? Anyway, John and I found this model on eBay and of course I had to buy it.

What IS wrong with me? #genx

“If we only understood …” Serendipity and, perhaps, divine intervention bring family treasures back home

Wendy Melton of Life on the Edge Media found these family items in an auction a few weeks back, and she was kind enough to reach out to me to see if I would like them. Of course, I said yes. What a treasure trove.

But what really strikes me is the letter I found that my grandfather wrote to his three daughters. It’s a long read, but I think you will enjoy it. I also see so much wisdom in this and find his way of expressing himself circuitously charming. And I also now completely see where I get my tendency to speak in parentheticals!

I also seem to recall legend of this letter that when it was sent, it was not particularly well received. 😅 And this might explain why it ended up in an auction. 😂

I don’t know that I ever actually read it nor saw it.

That said, at this point in my life, and with all the difficult moments we all are processing, and with what I have personally learned as Legal Marketing Association – LMA International prez this year, the letter really hits home. So sharing if also somehow helpful to you all.

August 6 … life is a banquet

A year ago today … my beloved mom died suddenly.

It’s all been … a lot. Sometimes life feels in free fall. Other times oddly centered and calm.

A lot of change. Not all bad, nor unexpected. But I miss her.

That kind of brilliant, deep-feeling, vibrant, funny-as-hell force of nature, so unquestionably in your corner? You might know someone like that once in a lifetime, let alone be raised by one.

I’m deeply sad. Every day. But intensely grateful for who she was … and who I am as result.

And hopeful. Always hopeful.

And at peace.

“Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!” – Mame Dennis